Self-Confidence…What’s It All About?

I’m not going to quote you a dictionary definition of the word confidence, as we all have our own definition and everyone’s is individual to them. Self-confidence often gets a negative reaction, it’s as if having belief in yourself, is a bad thing. I would say it’s definitely not. Having self-confidence in moderation, is the key, the right balance makes you not seem, perhaps, arrogant.

What I want to explore in this article, is the concept of a facade, that in the Arts we often seem to have, of being happy-go-lucky and loving life. I often get told I am a confident person, but I would definitely say I seem it, as I wouldn’t say I’m a consistently confident one. I do have a relatively high level of confidence, but a lot of the time I am like everyone else and just blagging it! I go to an audition or a meeting and I’m the most confident version of myself, pure and simple, but I’m still myself.

This leads to my next point and something I emphasise a lot in Frantastic View, be yourself. Always. Being yourself and confident go hand-in-hand believe it or not. You can be both confident and maintain your personality and individuality, as I want to get across is confidence is not an ugly trait.

Here are some pointers for feeling that extra confidence, when perhaps you are feeling at a low ebb:

Remember there is only one you in this world, so don’t compare yourself to others, be the best version of you.

Never let anyone dent belief in what you can achieve, we do that to ourselves enough, without letting anyone else destroy our self esteem.

Talk about it, if you are feeling your confidence is at a real low point, then please share this with someone you trust.

Hope you have a beautiful week 💜

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Frantastic View Has Been Nominated For A Blogger Recognition Award

I am very overwhelmed, as well as extremely humbled, that my blog Frantastic View, has been nominated for a Blogger Recognition Award by https://breakaleg.biz/ and would just like to say a huge thanks for this nomination.

I started Frantastic View in 2015, originally as a theatre reviewing blog, but I soon realised as much as I enjoyed reviewing, I was being asked to guest review on other theatre blogs, so I wanted to make Frantastic View something more personalised. It was apparent, there weren’t too many blogs that were writing about life in the Arts and trying to inspire other creatives, so I wanted to show other artists that they weren’t alone and had support. I’ve written a range of topics on self validation to pre-show snacking! This year I also introduced a guest blog series from a range of artists from Lucy Basaba to SallyAnn Fellowes, with wonderful articles aimed to inspire.

Advice I would give to new bloggers is find your niche and stay true to yourself! If you want to write about something, then do it! If your blog article is about your evening of eating pizza and watching Strictly, then do it, that’s your truth and to be honest a lot of readers will probably relate!

Bloggers I would like to nominate:

https://theblogoftheatrethings.com/ This theatre blog is so supportive in its reviews and conducts such wonderful interviews with theatre makers.

https://breakaleg.biz/ Such a supportive blog, with artists from a range of different genres featuring on it from stage to TV, making it very unique and exciting.

http://www.theatrefullstop.com/ Theatrefullstop are such a theatrical powerhouse whilst maintaining a platform to new writing and emerging artists.

https://www.carnstheatrepassion.com/?red=1&WordApp_launch=1 This blog is also a champion of new theatre writing and are always maintaining a positivity.

https://thisstuffisgolden.com/ This Stuff Is Golden is a mental health blog, that has articles on a range of inspiring topics we can all relate.

Never Lose A Sense Of Excitement

Whether it’s the butterflies you feel on a first date, or the sense of adrenalin before that audition, this is what makes life that bit, well, exciting. It is so easy to dwell on negatives, that we forget to let ourselves experience, which is a result of sensations and feelings, which make them unforgettable.

If you are feeling like that spark of electricity in your life needs to be reignited, sometimes it’s actually our own selves preventing it. Constant comparisons and criticisms we make of every part of our own being is exhausting! We drain ourselves and others, because if we don’t want to hear our own negativity, chances are others closest to us, will not either.

Letting go of negative energy in our lives, is a daunting prospect, as the sources of it may not have always been that way, but once a crack in the foundation appears, it will just keep getting bigger. Whatever it is causing you not to let yourself experience happiness, is not worth holding on to, simply distance yourself from it.

Never be led to believe anything is too trivial or not worthy of your joy. Find the source of that joy and let it show you, just what it is that makes you smile. Smiling is your way of expressing a sense of excitement, if you want to be estatic about hot chocolate with a marshmallow on top, then go for it!

Hope this article has brought some kind of excitement…or at least a smile, thanks for reading and have a wonderful day 💜

Guest Blog-From Actress Sallyann Fellowes

I have something to confess- I have never written a blog before.
I know what a blog is so I resorted to Google. It says
“a regularly updated website or web page, typically one run by an individual or small group, that is written in an informal or conversational style.”
Ok thanks- that tells me Nothing.
I guess that makes me a blog virgin as I am at the moment a comedy virgin- so the two virgins types can sit together and eat chips. There’s probably a joke there but I have comedy constipation at this precise moment.

I am an ex nurse ex police officer who turned to acting after I got injured on duty in the police and I retired because of my health, or lack of it. In June this year I did a stand-up comedy course at the London School of Comedy in Camden. They’re a lovely bunch and they do brilliant things in the community to tackle knife crime and help mentor young people whose start has not been the best. What’s not to like? Plus I had already booked and paid for a slot at the Edinburgh Festival to do a show that I hadn’t actually written yet.

I’d never done any sort of stand-up comedy and I had never been to Edinburgh.
What could possibly go wrong?
Here comes another confession (fellow lapsed Catholics will see a familiar pattern here). Whenever I had seen a stand up show the sight of the empty stage with a microphone was like a very strong magnet and I have to sit on my hands.
I always wanted to run up and say something (I never actually did it) – I realise this is weird and probably has a long name and involves visits to a psychiatrist.

So the course was really helpful and I wrote the show, did a preview of it, plus a couple of open mics then went to Edinburgh.
When I told my Dad he said no-one will come, then after a minute the word “unfortunately” so a nice bit of compassion there to lighten the kiss of doom, thanks Dad.
My Mum said I’m just worried you’ll die either on stage or actually just die.
Great thanks Mum.

I can confirm I didnt do either. The audience did laugh and hopefully not out of pity. A few people came up afterwards to tell me they loved the show. I’ve done a few spots in other people’s shows since and the Out of the Blue show is at Tribeca Basement in Manchester, for the Women in Comedy Festival on October 24th at 7pm. You have been warned. Oh and theres a bar and theres lots of other funny women doing their stuff too.

Theres been some fab gigs and of course not so fab- including one where there was no light! I am not even joking it was like being in a dungeon. A woman tried to sell me a bottle of knocked off champagne in the toilets when I said No thanks I was alright, she said I can get you any pills you want! I thought one guy was heckling me, so I went nearer to hear what he was saying and he was on his phone! Another instance, a bloke heckled me through a window while he was smoking a cigarette comedy gold! The audience were all rolling drunk and another woman tried to take the MCs mic- shouting that she wanted to make a stand against political correctness.

After that I tried to find that woman with the pills but she’d gone (I’m joking).
Thanks for reading guys if you’re in Manchester on 24th October I would love to see you at my show.

@sallyannfellowes