Quirks That Make Us, Simply, Human

Let’s be honest, the things that make us only human, the quirks, are not always seen by ourselves as positives. Although, in fact, they can be what make life a little more interesting and a bit more fun. We need to try and embrace these quirks, here are just a few of them…

Humour

We all have diffetent kinds of humour and triggers that will give us the giggles. Whether it be wicked, naughty, dark or dry, (the list goes on), we all should celebrate what causes us to laugh and makes us happy, as well as those around us.

Falling Over In Public

This is when we really have to just laugh at ourselves and really take it in our stride (unless you are injured of course!). At the very least, we have perhaps brought a smile to someone, with our acrobatic display!

Eye Make-Up

One eye is going to qualify for the Turner Prize and the other, is never going to make it (no pun intended). I am referring the age old mystery, of why you apply make-up to one eye, just the way you want it, but the other eye never completely manages to be emulated. The answer to the mystery is that… I have to reveal there is no answer, you can never clone one eye’s look precisely, indivuality is an awesome thing!

First Date Nerves

You have managed to get a date with THE person of your dreams…THEN you get so nervous, you talk so much and you dont manage to eat anything, even though you love Italian food! We have all had this happen. Butterflies are natural and the adrenalin can cause us to chat a lot, but that’s a good thing, chatting is always good to put you at ease.

Have a beautiful day and be kind. 💜

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Small Changes Can Make A Big Difference To Your Happiness

When you aren’t happy, you know you’re not, others know it too, but still it’s so easy to brush it under the carpet.

Things will get better..No they don’t

It will pass, just give it time..This won’t happen

This feeling of discontent has happened before...So that means try to prevent it happening again

Ultimately we all want to be happy and making small changes to our lives, can make all the difference. These small changes below are positive ones, which will contribute to us, at the very least, feeling enlightened and a little more joyful.

Distance yourself from negativity

Doing exactly those four words will make a huge difference! If someone or something is a constant huge grey cloud, a toxic energy, then know when to distance yourself for your own good. Being kind to yourself, is so very important.

Making Time For YOU

When you have a career in the Arts, like myself, you are fundamentally a freelancer. This means you seem to be on auto-pilot, thinking constantly about the next gig or project. Take time to relax when you are feeling the pressure-whether it be listening to music or reading a chapter of the book you keep meaning to pick up…

Which leads me on to..READING

Printed copy or Audio book, I can’t recommend this enough. From personal experience, there is nothing more relaxing and takes you to a clearer mind frame, than a good book. Relaxing means you are not in a state of stress or exhaustion and can make decisions, in a more positive happier state.

Hope these small changes, can lead to a big change and a happier you. Have a beautiful day and be kind ❤️

No Spring In Your Step?

All those exciting plans for 2018 may have expired at the end of January and the ‘April Showers’ may be dampening your mood, but don’t feel disheartened. Here are some ideas to help rejuvinate you, at this transition in to Spring, which is a season of growth and a warm-up to Summer, talking of which…

1. Nature truly is amazing, just looking at flowers, on a jaunt, will instantly brighten your mood. If you can buy your own, then putting them in a vase in your home, will brighten the space and you!

2. A New Activity can work wonders, whether it be re-discovering the joy of a good book or perhaps drawing. Finding time to do what you enjoy, can be a wonderful way to unwind from daily stress.

3. Trying a New Cuisine might seem an obvious suggestion (to my fellow foodies at least), but sometimes it’s so easy to get in a continuous rotuine of eating the same sort of food..So be adventurous!

4. Having a Good Night’s Sleep is so vital, with keeping us alert and refreshed every single day, so make sure you are having a good night’s sleep. Stop checking your social media so frequently, as this will definitely equal a better night’s sleep.

Wishing you a beautiful day and be kind. 💜

Photo Credit: Kathy Trevelyan

Comparison Leads To Discontent

Social Media can be such a valuable marketing tool in the Arts, it can also be a destructive one. Let’s get straight to the issue, human nature means we look at posts/tweets/photo’s and compare ourselves to others. We think that everyone has achieved so very much and are having an idylic life. Let me tell you…This is not true!

Think of social media as a rose tinted window, where everything it contains is well, rosy. Even the most horrifically sad post or tweet, is ten times better than it’s reality. Social Media masks so much reality, we are left believing the standard it portrays, is to which we aspire. It can seem like everyone is getting ahead in the Arts and their personal life, but this is not at all the case. No-one is a superhero, we all have our own personal hurdles.

Be happy for fellow creatives and support their career, but don’t take the illusion of a tweet or photo as gospel. Focus on you and your goals, which make you an individual. Everyone is different and this needs to be celebrated, rather than seen as a competition. Start believing in you and your own story-what you have to offer the world.

Have a beautiful Easter Weekend and be kind. 💜

Want What you Can’t Have…Sound Familiar?

When you have it, you are like Speedy Gonzales, running in the opposite direction. When you don’t have it anymore, you are like Speedy Gonzales, chasing it. What am I referring to as “it” here? Well, just about anything.

As humans, we can automatically tell how much we need something, when it’s no longer within our reach. Missing something we can’t have, due to ourselves or others actions, can feel unbearable. Whether it be a personal relationship or something in our career, whatever it is, we need to address the issue and remember why we don’t have it in our life anymore.

Here are things below you need to bare in mind:

What do you REALLY need?

Remember what you DO have

These two sentences are short, but to the point and will help us think about what we need, rather than want. This differentiation is so important, sometimes we listen to what we think we want, rather than what our mind and body needs, to be nourished.

It’s a cliche, but so true, everything happens for a reason-just because we no longer have what we once did, doesn’t mean we need it anymore or less. Rose-tinted memories are so easy to visualise, but we need to focus on the future and what we need from that.

Have a beautiful day and be kind ❤️

Don’t Be Harsh On Yourself

None of us are perfect. This is because, in fact, the whole idea of perfection does not exist, it is simply something we have constructed ourselves. So why do we still pick every aspect of our being apart? Because we are human. We are angry for being too harsh on ourselves, which means, that we then create one big vicious circle.

Lets start finding positives, rather than negatives about who we are. Here are some ideas, on how we can start showing some self-love:

1. Think of an activity that you enjoy doing and name something positive you contribute to it- whether it be enthusiasm or perseverance, believe me, the fact you have such a passion for it, will make this task easy. Once you think of one thing, you will start to find other unique qualities, you bring to the table too.

2. Have a break, even if it’s a ten minute one, from that script you’re writing or song you are rehearsing. Don’t push yourself too much, being relaxed and fresh, will give your work the direction it needs.

3. Treat yourself to that new cake in the bakery or a new book you have wanted to read, but keeping walking past the shop window, with the excuse you haven’t got time. Make time to try new things and to replenish your body and soul.

4. Be Kind to you 💜

Start Listening To Your Body..It’s Very Wise

You might be shouting “Yes that’s obvious” but realistically how many of us ignore how we are feeling physically, so as to not interrupt our lives? We often convince ourselves in the Arts, the world will cease turning, unless we have that casting meeting ASAP, or answer an email within 30 seconds.

I will let you in to a little secret…The world WILL NOT stop if you have a rest. You are not “slacking” or lacking ambition, you are looking after yourself. Self preservation is so important, you can’t take care of anything else in your life, if you are not feeling your best.

Getting a good nights sleep, has a different meaning for everyone, but is so vital in making sure you are regenerating each night, as is eating a balanced diet. Our body will tell us when we need sleep and to eat the foods it requires, we just need to pay attention to it, just as we do our phone.

Doing things that benefit you every day, will make you more in tune with what your body is telling you. If your voice is feeling tired when you are rehearsing a song and your higher register is just not happening, it means you should stop immediately. As an artist, we need to value our instrument-our bodies.

Let’s start showing some self-love and listen to our bodies, like we would a friend in need. Have a beautiful day and be kind. ❤️

January..To Me-uary

Two weeks in to January and let’s be honest, the resolution got left in resolutionville, about ten days ago. We all make them, we all say we will never make them again, but we still do. Being human, striving to change something and wanting to improve, are high up on the new year agenda, but what if we spend that time instead, on appreciating ourselves?

Appreciating ourselves is not being self-absorbed, its taking time to recharge our batteries, to consider what we want for the rest of the year ahead and be kind to ourselves. Throwing ourselves head first in to this year, won’t be productive. Of course be motivated and make our goals come true, but only when you are ready. Looking at what you have acheived, helps you decide what is next, but most importantly enjoy the moment.

Taking time out is always OK, never second thought this, being in the Arts is not a job but for life. Sometimes, it’s easy to forget that we all need a break, to inspire and motivate us even more. Deciding on our next project or a direction for our lives, is not simple. It means we need to nurture ourselves, learn and grow.

Doing what is right for you, is always going to be different to someone elses life, so please try not to compare (yes, we all do it). You are unique, draw on your strengths and dont focus harshly on what you see as ‘weakness’, as this doesn’t exist. Instead, this is in fact just an area to improve upon in your life, but at your own pace, always.

Have a beautiful day and be kind 💜<<<<<<<

When You Least Expect It…

When you least expect it, life can present something spectacular in your path. Sometimes it doesn’t. But, sometimes, it does. Life is by no means a fairytale, although, it can give you a sprinkle of unexpected magic. The surprise is what makes it so satisfying.

We spend so much time wanting, wishing and expecting that something to happen, we start to convince ourselves it won’t, rather than just letting it, well, happen. When we don’t spend all our time focusing on one thing we would to improve upon in our personal or professional lives, then we can actually relax.

Relaxing is both beneficial for our mind and body, destressing means that when life does throw us that gem, we can enjoy it. OK, enjoying is such a broad word, perhaps savour would be a better way to describe it. We need to focus on the joy we have, celebrate and realise we deserve that happiness.

Making goals is such a productive way to focus on what we want to acheive, but, by no means shall we believe we can truly plan. Nothing ever truly goes to plan. To be honest, a lot of the best things, are ones we never imagined could happen.

Not every day will be “perfect”-so celebrate the unexpected, have a beautiful week and be kind. ❤️

The End Of Another Year…Reflect And Be Kind To You

With just over two weeks until New Year, at the time of writing this article (yes I know there is Christmas to come yet), I wanted to write about the transition in to 2018.

Why?

I know that entering another year, can be a time, where we, especially as artists, can analyse what we have achieved. In fact, as human beings we do that- everything should have fallen in to place, but it has not. Christmas is a time that can remind us of things we are missing in our lives and the New Year approaching, seems to magnify this.

To boost our own morale, let’s write down one thing every day until the 31st December, that we are proud to have achieved in our lives this year. Remember nothing is too big or small, this is something personal to you and is intended to be a list, that on the last day of 2017, you can look at and smile.

It may be performing that song, you’ve always wanted to sing to an audience, for the first time, or cooking that intricate recipe, you’ve always held back on making. You will surprise yourself with this list of just what you’ve made happen in 2017 and the impact you’ve had in your own life, as well as that of others!

Happy writing and as always, be kind ❤️